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aristocrat to acquire wealth was to marry it。 The American wife honestly
tried to do her duty in this new position�察�naively thinking she could engraft
transatlantic ;go; upon the indolent Italian character。 Her work was in vain�察�
she made herself and her husband so unpopular that they are now living in
this country�察�regretting too late the error of their ways。
Another case but little less laughable�察�is that of a Boston girl with a
neat little fortune of her own�察�who�察�when married to the young Viennese of
her choice�察�found that he expected her to live with his family on the third
floor of their ;palace; ��the two lower floors being rented to foreigners���察�
and as there was hardly enough money for a box at the opera�察�she was not
expected to go�察�whereas his position made it necessary for him to have a
stall and appear there nightly among the men of his rank�察�the astonished
and disillusioned Bostonian remaining at home EN TETE´A´TETE with
the women of his family�察 �who seemed to think this the most natural
arrangement in the world。
It certainly is astonishing that we�察�the most patriotic of nations�察�with
such high opinion of ourselves and our institutions�察�should be so ready to
hand over our daughters and our ducats to the first foreigner who asks for
them�察�often requiring less information about him than we should consider
necessary before buying a horse or a dog。
Women of no other nation have this mania for espousing aliens。
Nowhere else would a girl with a large fortune dream of marrying out of
her country。 Her highest ideal of a husband would be a man of her own kin。
It is the rarest thing in the world to find a well´born French�察�Spanish�察�or
Italian woman married to a foreigner and living away from her country。
How can a woman expect to be happy separated from all the ties and
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traditions of her youth�拭�If she is taken abroad young�察�she may still hope to
replace her friends as is often done。 But the real reason of unhappiness
��greater and deeper than this�� lies in the fundamental difference of the
whole social structure between our country and that of her adoption�察�and
the radically different way of looking at every side of life。
Surely a girl must feel that a man who allows a marriage to be
arranged for him ��and only signs the contact because its pecuniary clauses
are to his satisfaction�察�and who would withdraw in a moment if these were
suppressed���察�must have an entirely different point of view from her own
on all the vital issues of life。
Foreigners undoubtedly make excellent husbands for their own women。
But they are�察�except in rare cases�察�unsatisfactory helpmeets for American
girls。 It is impossible to touch on more than a side or two of this subject。
But as an illustration the following contrasted stories may be cited�此�
Two sisters of an aristocratic American family�察�each with an income of
over forty thousand dollars a year�察 �recently married French noblemen。
They naturally expected to continue abroad the life they had led at home�察�
in which opera boxes�察 �saddle horses�察 �and constant entertaining were
matters of course。 In both cases�察 �our compatriots discovered that their
husbands ��neither of them penniless�� had entirely different views。 In the
first place�察�they were told that it was considered ;bad form; in France for
young married women to entertain�察 �besides�察 �the money was needed for
improvements�察�and in many other ways�察 �and as every well´to´do French
family puts aside at least a third of its income as DOTS for the children
��boys as well as girls���察�these brides found themselves cramped for money
for the first time in their lives�察�and obliged�察�during their one month a year
in Paris�察 �to put up with hired traps�察 �and depend on their friends for
evenings at the opera。
This story is a telling set´off to the case of an American wife�察�who one
day received a windfall in the form of a check for a tidy amount。 She
immediately proposed a trip abroad to her husband�察 �but found that he
preferred to remain at home in the society of his horses and dogs。 So our
fair compatriot starts off ��with his full consent���察�has her outing�察�spends her
little ;pile�察─ �and returns after three or four months to the home of her
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delighted spouse。
Do these two stories need any comment�拭 �Let our sisters and their
friends think twice before they make themselves irrevocably wheels in a
machine whose working is unknown to them�察�lest they be torn to pieces as
it moves。 Having the good luck to be born in the ;paradise of women�察─�let
them beware how they leave it�察�charm the serpent never so wisely�察�for they
may find themselves�察�like the Peri�察�outside the gate。
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CHAPTER 6 ´ The Complacency of
Mediocrity
FULL as small intellects are of queer kinks�察�unexplained turnings and
groundless likes and dislikes�察 �the bland contentment that buoys up the
incompetent is the most difficult of all vagaries to account for。 Rarely do
twenty´four hours pass without examples of this exasperating weakness
appearing on the surface of those shallows that commonplace people so
naively call ;their minds。;
What one would expect is extreme modesty�察�in the half´educated or the
ignorant�察�and self´approbation higher up in the scale�察�where it might more
reasonably dwell。 Experience�察�however�察�teaches that exactly the opposite
is the case among those who have achieved success。
The accidents of a life turned by chance out of the beaten tracks�察�have
thrown me at times into acquaintanceship with some of the greater lights
of the last thirty years。 And not only have they been�察 �as a rule�察 �most
unassuming men and women�察�but in the majority of cases positively self´
depreciatory�察�doubting of themselves and their talents�察�constantly aiming
at greater perfection in their art or a higher development of their powers�察�
never contented with what they have achieved�察�beyond the idea that it has
been another step toward their goal。 Knowing this�察�it is always a shock on
meeting the mediocre people who form such a discouraging majority in
any society�察�to discover that they are all so pleased with themselves�察�their
achievements�察 �their place in the world�察 �and their own ability and
discernment� �
Who has not sat chafing in silence while Mediocrity�察 �in a white
waistcoat and jangling fobs�察 �occupied the after´dinner hour in imparting
second´hand information as his personal views on literature and art�拭�Can
you not hear him saying once again�此 �I don't pretend to know anything
about art and all that sort of thing�察 �you know�察 �but when I go to an
exhibition I can always pick out the best pictures at a glance。 Sort of a way
I have�察�and I never make mistakes�察�you know。;
Then go and watch�察�as I have�察�Henri Rochefort as he laboriously forms
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the opinions that are to appear later in one of his ;SALONS�察─�realizing the
while that he is FACILE PRINCEPS among the art critics of his day�察�that
with a line he can make or mar a reputation and by a word draw the
admiring crowd around an unknown canvas。 While Rochefort toils and
ponders and hesitates�察 �do you suppose a doubt as to his own astuteness
ever dims the self´ complacency of White Waistcoat�拭�Never� �
There lies the strength of the feeble´minded。 By a special dispensation
of Providence�察�they can never see but one side of a subject�察�so are always
convinced that they are right�察 �and from the height of their contentment�察�
look down on those who chance to differ with them。
A lady who has gathered into her dainty salons the fruit of many years'
careful study and tireless ;weeding; will ask anxiously if you are quite
sure you like the effect of her latest acquisition ´ some eighteenth´century
statuette or screen ��flotsam�察 �probably�察 �from the great shipwreck of
Versailles���察 �and listen earnestly to your verdict。 The good soul who has
just furnished her house by contract�察 �with the latest ;Louis Fourteenth
Street; productions�察�conducts you complacently through her chambers of
horrors�察 �wreathed in tranquil smiles�察 �born of ignorance and that smug
assurance granted only to the ´ small。
When a small intellect goes in for cultivating itself and improving its
mind�察�you realize what the poet meant in asserting that a little learning was
a dangerous thing。 For Mediocrity is apt�察 �when it dines out�察 �to get up a
subject beforehand�察�and announce to an astonished circle�察�as quite new and
personal discoveries�察 �that the Renaissance was introduced into France
from Italy�察�or that Columbus in his day made important ;finds。;
When the incompetent advance another step and write or paint ´ which�察�
alas� �is only too frequent ´ the world of art and literature is flooded with
their productions。 When White Waistcoat�察�for example�察�takes to painting�察�
late in life�察�and comes to you�察�canvas in hand�察�for criticism ��read praise���察�
he is apt to remark modestly�此�
;Corot never painted until he was fifty�察�and I am only forty´eight。 So I
feel I should not let myself be discouraged。;
The problem of life is said to be the finding of a happiness that is not
enjoyed at the expense of others�察 �and surely this class have solved that
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Sphinx's riddle�察 �for they float through their days in a dream of
complacency disturbed