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aristocrat to acquire wealth was to marry it。 The American wife honestly 

tried to do her duty in this new position�察�naively thinking she could engraft 

transatlantic ;go; upon the indolent Italian character。 Her work was in vain�察�

she made herself and her husband so unpopular that they are now living in 

this country�察�regretting too late the error of their ways。 

     Another case but little less laughable�察�is that of   a Boston girl with   a 

neat little fortune of her own�察�who�察�when married to the young Viennese of 

her choice�察�found that he expected her to live with his family on the third 

floor of   their   ;palace;   ��the   two   lower   floors   being   rented   to   foreigners���察�

and as there was hardly enough money for a box at the opera�察�she was not 

expected to go�察�whereas his position made it necessary for him to have a 

stall and appear there nightly among the men of his rank�察�the astonished 

and disillusioned   Bostonian   remaining   at home  EN TETE´A´TETE   with 

the   women      of  his  family�察  �who    seemed    to  think   this  the  most    natural 

arrangement in the world。 

     It certainly is astonishing that we�察�the most patriotic of nations�察�with 

such high opinion of ourselves and our institutions�察�should be so ready to 

hand over our daughters and our ducats to the first foreigner who asks for 

them�察�often requiring less information about him than we should consider 

necessary before buying a horse or a dog。 

     Women       of  no   other   nation   have   this  mania    for   espousing    aliens。 

Nowhere else would a girl with a large fortune dream of marrying out of 

her country。 Her highest ideal of a husband would be a man of her own kin。 

It is the rarest thing in the world to find a well´born French�察�Spanish�察�or 

Italian   woman   married to a  foreigner  and living   away  from  her  country。 

How   can   a   woman   expect   to   be   happy   separated   from   all   the   ties   and 



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traditions of her youth�拭�If she is taken abroad young�察�she may still hope to 

replace   her   friends   as   is   often   done。   But   the   real   reason   of   unhappiness 

��greater   and   deeper   than   this��   lies   in   the   fundamental   difference   of   the 

whole social structure between our country and that of her adoption�察�and 

the radically different way of looking at every side of life。 

     Surely     a  girl  must    feel   that  a  man     who    allows    a  marriage     to  be 

arranged for him ��and only signs the contact because its pecuniary clauses 

are to his satisfaction�察�and who would withdraw in a moment if these were 

suppressed���察�must have an entirely different point of view from her own 

on all the vital issues of life。 

     Foreigners undoubtedly make excellent husbands for their own women。 

But they are�察�except in rare cases�察�unsatisfactory helpmeets for American 

girls。 It is impossible to touch on more than a side or two of this subject。 

But as an illustration the following contrasted stories may be cited�此�

     Two sisters of an aristocratic American family�察�each with an income of 

over   forty   thousand   dollars   a   year�察  �recently   married   French   noblemen。 

They naturally expected to continue abroad the life they had led at home�察�

in   which     opera    boxes�察   �saddle    horses�察   �and   constant     entertaining     were 

matters   of   course。   In   both   cases�察  �our   compatriots   discovered   that   their 

husbands ��neither of them penniless�� had entirely different views。 In   the 

first place�察�they were told that it was considered ;bad form; in France for 

young   married   women   to   entertain�察  �besides�察  �the   money   was   needed   for 

improvements�察�and   in   many  other   ways�察 �and  as   every  well´to´do  French 

family puts aside at least a third of its income as DOTS for the children 

��boys as well as girls���察�these brides found themselves cramped for money 

for the first time in their lives�察�and obliged�察�during their one month a year 

in   Paris�察  �to  put   up   with   hired    traps�察 �and    depend     on  their   friends    for 

evenings at the opera。 

     This story is a telling set´off to the case of an American wife�察�who one 

day   received   a   windfall   in   the   form   of   a   check   for   a   tidy   amount。   She 

immediately   proposed   a   trip   abroad   to   her   husband�察  �but   found   that   he 

preferred to remain at home in the society of his horses and dogs。 So our 

fair compatriot starts off ��with his full consent���察�has her outing�察�spends her 

little   ;pile�察─  �and   returns   after   three   or   four   months   to   the   home   of   her 



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delighted spouse。 

     Do   these   two   stories   need   any   comment�拭  �Let   our   sisters   and   their 

friends think twice before they make themselves irrevocably wheels in a 

machine whose working is unknown to them�察�lest they be torn to pieces as 

it moves。 Having the good luck to be born in the ;paradise of women�察─�let 

them beware how they leave it�察�charm the serpent never so wisely�察�for they 

may find themselves�察�like the Peri�察�outside the gate。 



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     CHAPTER 6 ´ The Complacency of 

                                Mediocrity 



       FULL as small intellects are of queer kinks�察�unexplained turnings and 

groundless   likes   and   dislikes�察  �the   bland   contentment   that   buoys   up   the 

incompetent is the most difficult of all vagaries to account for。 Rarely do 

twenty´four   hours   pass   without   examples   of   this   exasperating   weakness 

appearing on   the surface   of those   shallows that   commonplace people   so 

naively call ;their minds。; 

     What one would expect is extreme modesty�察�in the half´educated or the 

ignorant�察�and self´approbation higher up in the scale�察�where it might more 

reasonably dwell。 Experience�察�however�察�teaches that exactly the opposite 

is the case among those who have achieved success。 

     The accidents of a life turned by chance out of the beaten tracks�察�have 

thrown me at times into acquaintanceship with some of the greater lights 

of   the   last   thirty   years。   And   not   only   have   they   been�察  �as   a   rule�察  �most 

unassuming men and women�察�but in the majority of cases positively self´ 

depreciatory�察�doubting of themselves and their talents�察�constantly aiming 

at greater perfection in their art or a higher development of their powers�察�

never contented with what they have achieved�察�beyond the idea that it has 

been another step toward their goal。 Knowing this�察�it is always a shock on 

meeting   the   mediocre   people   who   form  such   a   discouraging   majority   in 

any society�察�to discover that they are all so pleased with themselves�察�their 

achievements�察      �their   place   in   the   world�察  �and    their   own    ability   and 

discernment� �

     Who     has   not  sat  chafing    in  silence   while    Mediocrity�察   �in  a  white 

waistcoat   and   jangling   fobs�察  �occupied   the   after´dinner  hour   in   imparting 

second´hand information as his personal views on literature and art�拭�Can 

you   not   hear   him   saying   once   again�此   �I   don't   pretend   to   know   anything 

about    art  and   all  that  sort  of  thing�察  �you   know�察  �but   when    I  go  to  an 

exhibition I can always pick out the best pictures at a glance。 Sort of a way 

I have�察�and I never make mistakes�察�you know。; 

     Then go and watch�察�as I have�察�Henri Rochefort as he laboriously forms 



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the opinions that are to appear later in one of his ;SALONS�察─�realizing the 

while that he is FACILE PRINCEPS among the art critics of his day�察�that 

with   a   line   he   can   make   or   mar   a   reputation   and   by   a   word   draw   the 

admiring   crowd   around   an   unknown   canvas。   While   Rochefort   toils   and 

ponders   and   hesitates�察  �do   you   suppose   a   doubt   as   to   his   own   astuteness 

ever dims the self´ complacency of White Waistcoat�拭�Never� �

     There lies the strength of the feeble´minded。 By a special dispensation 

of Providence�察�they can never see but one side of a subject�察�so are always 

convinced   that   they   are   right�察  �and   from   the   height   of   their   contentment�察�

look down on those who chance to differ with them。 

     A lady who has gathered into her dainty salons the fruit of many years' 

careful   study   and   tireless   ;weeding;   will   ask   anxiously   if   you   are   quite 

sure you like the effect of her latest acquisition ´ some eighteenth´century 

statuette     or   screen    ��flotsam�察    �probably�察    �from    the   great    shipwreck      of 

Versailles���察  �and   listen   earnestly   to   your   verdict。  The   good   soul   who   has 

just   furnished   her   house   by   contract�察  �with   the   latest   ;Louis   Fourteenth 

Street; productions�察�conducts you complacently through her chambers of 

horrors�察  �wreathed   in   tranquil   smiles�察  �born   of   ignorance   and   that   smug 

assurance granted only to the ´ small。 

     When a small intellect goes in for cultivating itself and improving its 

mind�察�you realize what the poet meant in asserting that a little learning was 

a  dangerous   thing。   For  Mediocrity  is   apt�察  �when   it   dines   out�察 �to   get up   a 

subject beforehand�察�and announce to an astonished circle�察�as quite new and 

personal      discoveries�察    �that  the   Renaissance      was    introduced     into   France 

from Italy�察�or that Columbus in his day made important ;finds。; 

     When the incompetent advance another step and write or paint ´ which�察�

alas� �is only too frequent ´ the world of art and literature is flooded with 

their productions。 When White Waistcoat�察�for example�察�takes to painting�察�

late in life�察�and comes to you�察�canvas in hand�察�for criticism ��read praise���察�

he is apt to remark modestly�此�

     ;Corot never painted until he was fifty�察�and I am only forty´eight。 So I 

feel I should not let myself be discouraged。; 

     The problem of life is said to be the finding of a happiness that is not 

enjoyed   at   the   expense   of   others�察  �and   surely   this   class   have   solved   that 



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Sphinx's      riddle�察   �for   they   float   through     their   days    in   a  dream     of 

complacency         disturbed 

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